Hello there real positive. This is turquoise.
I'm sorry you're going through this. No one likes to lose a friend. It may be a chance to grow but I bet right now you're not feeling too good. I hope you're okay I hope you're safe. I want to share something with you I have an AI website where I asked your question and I'd like to share the answer with you. It is not a therapy thing and I am not a therapist because I do research every day on these kinds of questions so that I can understand myself.
Here is the answer and you can take it or leave it. I'm also posting this for the benefit of the community here and anybody who sees this.
Anyone can feel free to reply to this thread or post another one.

Here it is: (you can search this website. If it doesn't come up right away, you can click on the purple circle that comes up in the search engine and it's called I ask ask AI. You can feel free to ask your own questions there or you can come back here. PLEASE BE SAFE.

According to www.iAsk.ai – Ask AI:

Summary:

Difference Between Negativity and Realism: Realism involves assessing situations based on evidence and balance, acknowledging both positives and negatives. Negativity focuses disproportionately on problems without offering constructive solutions. 1 2
Why You May Be Perceived as Negative: Factors such as tone, frequent focus on critical topics, mismatched conversational preferences, or personal biases of others can lead someone to interpret realism as negativity. 3 4
Self-Evaluation: Reflect on whether you acknowledge positive aspects alongside criticisms, offer solutions, and encourage productive dialogue rather than shutting down conversations. This helps distinguish realism from negativity in your communication style. 2
Impact of Deeper Conversations on Friendships: Discussing meaningful topics can strain friendships if there’s a mismatch in communication styles—some people prefer lighter interactions to avoid emotional overwhelm. 4 5
Moving Forward: Balance deeper discussions with lighter topics, seek feedback from trusted friends about your communication style, and respect differences in conversational preferences while staying authentic to yourself. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. 5
AUTHORITATIVE SOURCES
Sarah J Gibson - The Difference Between Realism and Negativity [Sarah J Gibson]
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Beyond Blue Forums - Being Negative vs Being Realistic [Beyond Blue]
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Life Craft - To Be Realistic About Friendships [Life Craft]
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Culturally Enough - Friendships Change [Culturally Enough Substack]
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The Atlantic - The Friendship Files [The Atlantic]↩