Mannie wrote:
Admin wrote:
I got discharged wrongfully from the IOP right after Christmas for non attendance when in truth I got into a conflict with my counselor. I was trying to reason with him to get transferred to another program over the phone and he insisted on me going in and for my own reason I refused and then he discharged me.
Why didn't you go in? Maybe he thought it necessary to see you in person before transfer you.
I had my own reasons that I did not want to share with him.
I'll share them with you because I trust you.
I think it might be helpful for the group too.
I put this in caps because I want to emphasize my explanation very strongly.
*I WAS AFRAID THAT IF I WENT IN PERSON HE WOULD TALK ME INTO STAYING. YOU ALL NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT I REALLY *DID NOT WANT TO LEAVE* . BUT I WAS BEING TREATED BADLY THERE AND I NEEDED TO AT LEAST GET TRANSFERRED TO ANOTHER PROGRAM. I HAD MENTIONED THIS BEFORE TO HIM AND HE HAD DISMISSED IT, WITH THE ATTITUDE OF THINKING THAT IF I WENT TO ANOTHER PROGRAM I WAS GOING TO BE DEALING WITH THE SAME PROBLEM. HE ALSO EXPRESSED TO ME IN SO MANY WORDS THAT HE DIDN'T TRUST ME TO ATTEND A PROGRAM FURTHER AWAY FROM HOME BECAUSE OF MY ATTENDANCE PROBLEMS PRESENTLY ALTHOUGH I HAD ASSURED HIM THAT I WAS WILLING TO ATTEND A PROGRAM REGULARLY AS LONG AS IT WASN'T HIS PROGRAM. I KNOW THAT THESE PEOPLE HAVE TREATED ME WORSE THAN ANY MENTAL HEALTH PROVIDERS HAVE TREATED ME IN ALL OF MY LIFE!
1) THEY BLOCKED MY PHONE EITHER OVERLY OR SOFTLY. THEY WOULD EITHER BLOCK MY NUMBER TECHNICALLY OR THEY WOULD JUST SIMPLY NOT ANSWER WHEN MY CALLER ID CAME UP. I TRIED TO CALL WITHOUT MY CALLER ID AND THE CALL DIDN'T GO THROUGH. THINK THEY SCREEN PEOPLE OUT UNLESS THEY ARE THEIR PATIENTS OR THE PEOPLE THAT THEY WORK WITH. THEY DON'T ANSWER ANONYMOUS NUMBERS AND THEY DIDN'T ANSWER MY NUMBER. I TRIED CALLING FROM ANOTHER NUMBER AND EVENTUALLY THEY CAUGHT ON THAT IT WAS ME AND STOPPED ANSWERING.
2) THEY GASLIGHT ME WITH THE MEALS AND WITH THE TRANSPORTATION.
3) THEY INVALIDATED BOTH THINGS THAT THEY DID.
IT IS IMPORTANT THAT CLIENTS ARE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH THE ESTABLISHMENT AND WHEN THEY'RE NOT ABLE TO DO THAT, THAT DISRUPTS THE RAPPORT AND THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE ESTABLISHMENT.
4) I HAVE EXPRESSED MY SEXUAL ORIENTATION AT OTHER FACILITIES AND HAVE NOT BEEN TREATED LIKE THIS.
I'M NOT KIDDING I HAVE BEEN TREATED BADLY IN MANY MENTAL HEALTH FACILITIES AND DISMISSED AND INVALIDATED. BUT NEVER LIKE THIS. MAYBE IT WAS BECAUSE I WAS IN THE CLOSET OR MAYBE IT WAS BECAUSE I NEVER HAD A CRUSH ON ANYONE IN A DAY TREATMENT PROGRAM. I HAVE NO IDEA.
I WAS AFRAID THAT I WAS GOING TO GET TALKED BACK INTO STAYING. MANY SURVIVORS ARE AFRAID TO GO BACK TO THEIR ABUSERS OR THEIR SITUATIONS BECAUSE OF THIS. PLEASE LOOK THIS UP LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. IT'S CALLED TRAUMA BONDING. IT'S CALLED STOCKHOLM SYNDROME IN EXTREME CASES. THIS INFORMATION IS BASED ON MY OWN EXPERIENCE AND ON DATA THAT I HAVE LOOKED UP ON THE INTERNET. *
