Ani and I discussed how the term trauma dumping can be used to attack people who are emotional and who need to share heated issues. I was talking in group therapy today about how I didn't want to have to take two days off for Christmas instead of one day because I didn't want to have to be mixed in with the morning program where Olga is.
I can't believe I'm saying this because about this time last year I wanted to be in the morning group instead of the afternoon group so that I could be with her. But I don't want to be with her anymore. I don't want to ever see her again after the way she treated me before Thanksgiving.
So we had a good discussion in the zoom about how I got belittled in front of the whole group about me sharing about not wanting to take 2 days off. They want to do the morning and afternoon groups together on Christmas Eve day and that means I'm going to have to not go in so that I won't have to see her.
Very suddenly, the therapist did a rules review and they covertly in an a sideways manner, addressed my "trauma dumping".
If there's a rule against sharing in an emotional way, I really don't feel safe there now.
I want this Zoom group to take off. There needs to be a place for people to feel safe talking about their problems without being belittled and humiliated.
I'm sure there's a way to have safe boundaries without humiliating someone.
C.