People have told me that I have no problem communicating with others. In fact I'm probably very good at it. I'm developing diplomacy skills.
However I still fear confronting people and confronting problems that involve people.
It goes without saying that I'm extremely aware that there are many humans on this planet that I simply can't win interactions with. No matter how good I am at talking no matter what I say it doesn't help it doesn't matter. I might as well be a blundering idiot who doesn't know how to talk in matters like this.
So my mentor states that I know what to say to people. I told him just now that I have trouble staying regulated regardless whether things go well or not. I am so full of toxic shame and I am so inundated with guilt that may not belong to me that I can barely tolerate being in a space with other people.