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Sorry I'm late I lost track of time. I want to talk a little bit about what happened with the zoom... Let me gather my thoughts.
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A friend of ours had joined the zoom on a regular basis and he was waiting for his girlfriend to come home. I'm a female who is running the zoom chat.
His girlfriend is very jealous and unstable.
She's been cheated on a few times.
I'm scared that if he logs on to zoom and she finds him talking to me on Zoom she's going to think that he's talking to me, another woman.
He told me not to worry because she's not there but I know how people are sometimes people will come home unexpectedly.
I decided to cancel the zoom.
Sorry to have to do this.
I think the board chats are safer right now.
At least if our friend has to go on the board, it won't look too much like his attention is on another woman on a video.
It's not safe to be in the middle of situations like this.
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I had to walk away from group today during IOP because I was working on dealing with programming from my childhood. I had to interact with the group and I was afraid to because of some beliefs that were getting in my way.
*Before going on to read further, I have a disclaimer* CONTAINS VERY DISTURBING MATERIAL. EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS MENTIONED.
OKAY I ASKED A QUESTION TO AI ON HOW TO DEPROGRAM FROM A VERY DISTURBING BELIEF THAT IS GETTING IN THE WAY OF MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.
According to Ask AI & Question AI www.iAsk.ai:
Understanding and Deprogramming Negative,DESTRUCTIVE Beliefs
HOW TO DO PROGRAM FROM BELIEVING THAT I HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE HERE OR TO ASSOCIATE WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN ANY WAY BECAUSE "MY MOTHER MADE A MISTAKE HAVING ME"
According to Ask AI & Question AI www.iAsk.ai:
Understanding Your Feelings
Recognize Your Feelings: First, itโs important to understand that your feelings are valid. You were raised in a situation where you might have felt unwanted or unloved. Acknowledge that itโs okay to feel hurt or confused about your past.
Identify the Source of the Belief: The belief that โI have no right to be hereโ likely comes from your auntโs attitude and how she treated you. Understanding that this belief is not a reflection of your worth can help you start to separate it from who you are.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
Question the Belief: When you think, โI have no right to be here,โ ask yourself: Is this true? What evidence do I have that supports or contradicts this thought? Often, negative beliefs are based on feelings rather than facts.
Replace with Positive Affirmations: Create positive statements about yourself. For example, say, โI deserve to be here,โ or โMy life has value.โ Repeat these affirmations daily until they start to feel more natural.
Seek Support
Talk to Someone: Consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings. They can provide tools and strategies tailored to your needs.
Connect with Others: Surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who affirm your worth and value as a person. Sharing your experiences can also help lessen the burden of negative beliefs.
Practice Self-Compassion
Be Kind to Yourself: Treat yourself as you would treat a friend in a similar situation. Recognize that everyone has struggles and that itโs okay to seek happiness and fulfillment.
Engage in Activities You Enjoy: Find hobbies or activities that make you happy and give you a sense of purpose. This can help shift your focus away from negative thoughts about yourself.
Reflect on Your Life
Create a Life Story: Write down positive experiences and accomplishments in your life, no matter how small they may seem. This exercise helps reinforce the idea that you have made valuable contributions during your time here.
Set Goals for the Future: Think about what you want for yourself moving forwardโwhether itโs personal growth, relationships, or new experiencesโand take small steps toward those goals.
By following these steps, you can begin to deprogram the negative belief instilled in you by your aunt and replace it with a healthier understanding of your worth and existence.
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American Psychological Association (APA)
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National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
NIMH offers information on mental health disorders, coping mechanisms, and the importance of seeking professional help when dealing with deep-seated emotional issues.
Psychology Today
This publication features articles written by mental health professionals discussing various psychological concepts, including self-worth, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and methods for challenging negative thoughts effectively.
Probability the answer is correct: 95%
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Maybe you should reword that AI script to something for dummies. That psychological stuff is going over my head.
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Francesca wrote:
Maybe you should reword that AI script to something for dummies. That psychological stuff is going over my head.
Okay maybe I can try that. But maybe you can read more slowly too. I know it's a lot to absorb.
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Admin wrote:
Francesca wrote:
Maybe you should reword that AI script to something for dummies. That psychological stuff is going over my head.
Okay maybe I can try that. But maybe you can read more slowly too. I know it's a lot to absorb.
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Okay I read the changed essay. Much better.
I can't believe that caregivers and parents can be so messed up with kids. That stuff stays with you for the rest of your life.
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Admin wrote:
Francesca wrote:
Maybe you should reword that AI script to something for dummies. That psychological stuff is going over my head.
Okay maybe I can try that. But maybe you can read more slowly too. I know it's a lot to absorb.
ยOkay I read the changed essay. Much better.
I can't believe that caregivers and parents can be so messed up with kids. That stuff stays with you for the rest of your life.
it does.
It takes time and patience to heal.
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Well it's past the hour I'm going to go now. A new thread will be posted tomorrow at the same time.