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[quote=Admin]Conclusion: I have decided to go no contact with this person. I had met her at IOP. Her name was Olga. I talked about her in the past tense because she is no longer in my life and it is because I decided. Her behavior has been detrimental to me. That's like she's interested one moment and then not interested the next moment. To compound the problem, I've had a crush on her too. That had been going on since November and my counselor had helped me in January to connect with her. But that was as far as he went. He did not want to get involved anymore so I was left to my own devices and so was she. Consequently we were left to navigate this interaction on our own and we both did very poorly. I kept trying to guess what she wanted and didn't want and she would not share anything hardly with me at all and besides that we had a language and dialect barrier I barely understood anything she said verbally. I was afraid to let her know that I had trouble understanding her cuz I was afraid she would be angry. I don't know and I will never know if she ever knew how I felt about her. I hope in time that will be inconsequential. I always can allow my crushes to go below the surface even though I never really get over them. I'm still not over a crush I had on someone in junior high (Middle School). Thank you for letting me share about hot and cold behavior. I want to thank Iask for their help and I hope it remains free to people who need it. I declare I get more therapy from that than I ever did from IOP. I desperately need counsel. As anyone else does. But in the United States time is money. And there isn't ever enough time because there doesn't seem to ever be enough money according to the mental health system. The mental health system is a terrible place to make friends or to develop crushes on people! My opinion. Opinions are like birthdays not everybody has to celebrate them the same way. Be safe everyone happy weekend. Another happy break up for me. But no more hot and cold. Got to go find a warm place in this lonely cold world. CEROL[/quote]