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[quote=Anka]I counseled somebody ( non-professionally; I'm an unlicensed mentor) and told them this: "Learn how to filter out the noise and see what message the person criticizing you has for you. I know that it's difficult because your brain can get hijacked and you can be in survival mode so that it's very difficult to hear what the person is saying all you hear is there attack, and/or,their anger, if they're angry. If they are attacking you they're probably afraid of something. Or maybe they're very concerned about you and it's coming out all charged up. Maybe take a quiet moment by yourself, after the criticism, and try very hard to see what message that person had for you. Do you know if it was someone who cared about you or if it was someone you cared about? That can sometimes put more weight on the criticism. Because you really want to please the person where you really want to connect with them and when they criticize you you may feel like they are disconnecting from you or that you are disconnected from them. Your brain is trying to protect you right now from attack and from potential danger and harm if it is detecting a harsh tone of voice or a verbal attack on you. Try to listen to the message. If there's no message, walk away. No one deserves to be treated harshly or attacked. Whoever posted on here I hope they're safe and okay. And I hope they come back. Good job everyone for being here and good job, Cerol A.[/quote]